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theunforgiven137:

I’ve compiled this list of resources to help trans* people like myself. Even if you’re not trans* and/or can’t use any of this, please reblog for the sake of others. Thanks!PassingThe Tumblr Transgender Clothes ExchangeHow to Take MeasurementsReflectore Voice Pitch TrackerMasculinizingThe FTM’s Complete Illustrated Guide to Looking Like a Hot DudeThe Male Fashion Fit GuideAK’s Guide to Suits (this is a drawing guide, but contains useful info)Throat Exercise to Deepen VoiceBig Brother Binder Repository & Re-Disbursement ProgramIn a Bind Binder DonationsUnderworks Pullover BindersLes Love Boat Binders, Packers, Underwear, Shoe Lifts, Etc.Cheap Clasp BinderDiscreet STP DeviceFeminizingWomen’s Clothing TerminologyTucking How-to GuideRealistic Breast Form TutorialThe Breast Form StoreMastectomy Bras with Built In Flap for Breast FormsHow to Contour and Highlight Using MakeupHow to Apply Eyeliner with a SpoonHow to Apply FoundationHow to Apply BlushHow to Apply EyeshadowEmergencyNational Suicide Prevention LifelineIMAlive Online Crisis NetworkTransgender Housing NetworkLegalNational Center for Transgender EqualityTransgender Law CenterChange your Name for Free - Civil Indigent Status (Tumblr post)Copwatch Infographic GuideMedicalTransgender Surgeons in the U.S.Center of Excellence for Transgender HealthFTM Hormone GuideFTM Surgery GuideMTF Hormone GuideMTF Surgery GuideMcalc Gender Neutral Menstruation CalculatorMental + SupportOnline Gender Therapy (can also issue letters of recommendation)Emotional Baggage CheckTransSpace RedditSchool + EducationTrans Student Equality ResourcesStudy Abroad for GLBT StudentsApplying to College as a Non-Binary Trans* PersonAdditional ResourcesSusan’s Place Transgender Resources and ForumsLaura’s Playground Transgender Resources

theunforgiven137:

I’ve compiled this list of resources to help trans* people like myself. Even if you’re not trans* and/or can’t use any of this, please reblog for the sake of others. Thanks!

Passing

The Tumblr Transgender Clothes Exchange
How to Take Measurements
Reflectore Voice Pitch Tracker

Masculinizing
The FTM’s Complete Illustrated Guide to Looking Like a Hot Dude
The Male Fashion Fit Guide
AK’s Guide to Suits (this is a drawing guide, but contains useful info)
Throat Exercise to Deepen Voice
Big Brother Binder Repository & Re-Disbursement Program
In a Bind Binder Donations
Underworks Pullover Binders
Les Love Boat Binders, Packers, Underwear, Shoe Lifts, Etc.
Cheap Clasp Binder
Discreet STP Device

Feminizing
Women’s Clothing Terminology
Tucking How-to Guide
Realistic Breast Form Tutorial
The Breast Form Store
Mastectomy Bras with Built In Flap for Breast Forms
How to Contour and Highlight Using Makeup

How to Apply Eyeliner with a Spoon

How to Apply Foundation
How to Apply Blush
How to Apply Eyeshadow

Emergency
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
IMAlive Online Crisis Network

Transgender Housing Network

Legal
National Center for Transgender Equality
Transgender Law Center
Change your Name for Free - Civil Indigent Status (Tumblr post)
Copwatch Infographic Guide

Medical
Transgender Surgeons in the U.S.
Center of Excellence for Transgender Health
FTM Hormone Guide
FTM Surgery Guide
MTF Hormone Guide
MTF Surgery Guide

Mcalc Gender Neutral Menstruation Calculator

Mental + Support
Online Gender Therapy (can also issue letters of recommendation)
Emotional Baggage Check
TransSpace Reddit

School + Education
Trans Student Equality Resources
Study Abroad for GLBT Students
Applying to College as a Non-Binary Trans* Person

Additional Resources
Susan’s Place Transgender Resources and Forums
Laura’s Playground Transgender Resources

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inkwelldried:

cocoabutterbabe:

cocoabutterbabe:

This is an accessory store where everything is $1.

They even have cosmetics! brushes, lipstick, and lashes as well as cute socks and panties!!

woah!

Because I know some of you lovelies are glam but poor.  It’s good for your mental health to do something nice, even if it’s cheap as dirt.

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download 8tracks mixes (not 8hacks)

lunalovegoed:

  • go to this website
  • paste the url of the mix and click the green button
  • now you can select all, or select just a few 
  • click ‘download selected’
  • it’s gonna download as a .zip

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magicoftelevision:

there is life outside your apartment - motivational showtunes mix
naughty - matilda the musical (original stratford recording) // no time at all - pippin (2013 revival) // cabaret - cabaret (1972 film soundtrack) // raise you up/just be - kinky boots // man up - book of mormon // i have confidence - the sound of music (1965 film soundtrack) // watch what happens - newsies // why not me? - carrie (2012 revival) // not for the life of me (tag) - thoroughly modern millie // there is life outside your apartment - avenue q // shine a light - heathers // butter outta cream - catch me if you can // make me stronger - memphis // there’s no cure like travel - anything goes (2011 revival)
(feel free to suggest more songs)

magicoftelevision:

there is life outside your apartment - motivational showtunes mix

naughty - matilda the musical (original stratford recording) // no time at all - pippin (2013 revival) // cabaret - cabaret (1972 film soundtrack) // raise you up/just be - kinky boots // man up - book of mormon // i have confidence - the sound of music (1965 film soundtrack) // watch what happens - newsies // why not me? - carrie (2012 revival) // not for the life of me (tag) - thoroughly modern millie // there is life outside your apartment - avenue q // shine a light - heathers // butter outta cream - catch me if you can // make me stronger - memphis // there’s no cure like travel - anything goes (2011 revival)

(feel free to suggest more songs)

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Emotions: Writing Grief

writeworld:

Anonymous asked: Hi, I was wondering if you folks had any resources that describe different grieving processes people go through? I think most everyone has heard of the ‘stages’ process (anger, denial, bargaining etc.), but it’d be awesome to have something that goes into greater detail about it, or offers some sort of alternative. :)

The stages of grief are actually pretty standard. There’s really no need to search beyond them for alternative methods of examining grief, though of course you may look into the books in our further reading section for more strategies for understanding and coping with loss.

We, however, are going to focus on the Five Stages of Grief, also known as the Kübler-Ross Model. For the record, these stages are:

  1. Denial. Blankness, shock, numbness, disbelief.
  2. Anger. A sense of betrayal, of abandonment. Maybe blaming oneself, others, or even the deceased for the loss.
  3. Bargaining. Trying to reason away the loss or else buy a respite from it.
  4. Depression. The full weight of the loss. Desolation, heaviness, terrible sadness. 
  5. Acceptance. The loss is a part of the self. Internalization, incorporation, moving on.

This list isn’t meant to represent the proper emotional journey of grief. There is no normal way to grieve. These stages may be of uneven length or create a loop to repeat until there is some epiphany and the sufferer can move past it; some stages may come out of order or not at all. But mostly, this is a pretty decent angle at which to start examining grief.

It’s easy to look at those five stages and think of a list like that as limiting, boring even. Each grieving process will be unique to the character going through it, as will the feelings and actions of the character at each stage. Characters exhibit grief in myriad ways. They are not limited by the most obvious clichés of denial or depression.

  • A gritty, hardened character can beg and sob and be overcome with fear of a life without the object of their grief.
  • A timid character might cope by being the shoulder for others to cry on as they deal with their loss; they may gain closure by affecting strength until they actually feel strong.
  • A sexual character might do exactly as one would expect and lose himself in the arms of another.

And, of course, there is everything in between. Messing with the reader’s expectations for a character’s reaction can yield powerful results. As John Green wrote in The Fault in Our Stars, “Grief does not change you, Hazel. It reveals you.”

Here are some assorted tips and observations on writing grief. Do with them what you will, but remember that these are not universal:

  • Strength and weakness are relative terms. The distinction, for instance, between crying as a testament to the strength of a bond between two characters and crying as a method of making others feel sorry for a character’s loss is palpable. Decide for each character what constitutes “strength” and “weakness” and show the reader the difference. Grief is a good time to do this because it is typically a process where a character’s true colors are bound to show themselves eventually, even if they try to hide their suffering or their process is more nuanced than other characters’.
  • Grief can come with nostalgia. A grieving character may look with a kinder eye on memories that include the person they have lost. They might long for those days, focus on them to the detriment of their present and the people in it. They might put the deceased character up on a pedestal, refuse to hear anything negative about them, or decide that their not-so-great experiences with that character were actually better than they’d remembered.
  • Memory loss isn’t uncommon. When a character is first told about the death of another character, he might enter a state of shock. While in this state, the character might be so overcome or so numb that he cannot recall later what he said or did while in that state. He might not even remember that the other character has died. You can read a bit more about this here.
  • Loss makes people uncomfortable. Like, really uncomfortable. When characters who are not grieving or who are grieving to a lesser extent encounter a character who is very much in mourning, they are often afraid to say or do the wrong thing and cause more pain. It is awkward to say the least.
    Characters may not know how to treat a grieving character because that character isn’t behaving as he normally does, whatever that means. When you write about loss, it might be a good idea to write about how other characters perceive the grieving character, how they react to him and speak to him while he is grieving. You could tell the reader a lot about a character’s grief by describing the reactions of the characters around him.
  • Grief can be stifling. It can remove a character from their routine, even make that routine seem pointless, selfish, or absurd. It can stomp on convictions, creativity, and relationships with other characters. Deadlines might be missed. Children may go uncared for. These are usually earmarks of the Depression stage of grief, and this period of apathy or listlessness might be a good way to slow the pace of the narrative you’re writing. It may create an interlude between spikes of action, sort of like the quick breath taken by swimmers before plunging again into the water.
  • Grief isn’t neat. It doesn’t decline over time in a smooth slope. A character doesn’t have to recover from a loss gradually or at all. Grief isn’t something you get over; it’s something you accept. The acceptance of a loss might look more like a seismograph than a bell curve. Keep that in mind as you write. Feelings of grief may surface unexpectedly.
  • How dead is dead? Did the person die right in front of the character or was the character just told of the death? If the character wasn’t present at the death can she take another person’s word for it that it even occurred? If your character could get away with denying the death even happened, would she? For how long?
    The sliding scale of physical proximity to the death of another character could play a huge role in how your character will react to their death. Shock might be a more appropriate first response for witnessing a death, whereas denial is more common if the character is not physically present when the event occurs. Shock and denial tend to blend together after a while, though it’s up to you to figure out the exact measurements. 
  • When was this person supposed to die? Before or after the character in question? A father or grandmother is supposed to die before their daughter or grandson. This dynamic, the dynamic of perceived inevitability, could create subtle differences in the way a character copes with a loss. A character will grieve differently for a child than for a parent. The grieving process could be longer with a child because parents do not expect to witness the sudden death of their child. This dynamic might also be affected by prolonged illness. If a character who has been ill for a long time dies, the grief a character feels over the death will be different. Different how, you ask? Well, that’s up to you.
  • How much death has your character seen? If your character has experienced a lot of death in her life, you can be sure that she will handle grief differently than a character feeling loss for the first time. You can play with desensitization by creating a situation where a particular death was special and triggered a pronounced grieving period. It could be a stranger or a best friend, a lover or an enemy; that death was special, and the character’s grief shows the reader a different side of him. Alternatively, a character who has never grieved before could play into expectations by mourning deeply or freak the reader out with a minimal reaction to death. And everything in between.
  • Rituals can help some people cope with loss and may disgust others. Many people mourning a loss have expressed feelings of comfort and closure connected with carrying out the religious rituals associated with the death of a loved one. Other people find no solace in ceremony and prefer to grieve in their own way. In either case, it’s good to know about these rituals because they tend to encourage behaviors that might be useful to apply to your characters. Check out an overview of some death rituals at these links: Remember, it is best to witness a ritual first-hand before writing it. If you cannot be present at the ritual you wish to write about, at least find someone who has and who is willing to describe it to you in detail. Otherwise, you not only risk misrepresenting the ritual, you may also miss details worth knowing that may be important to your character.
  • The surprising twist is not always stronger than the expected reaction. Sometimes the reader just wants the character to be plain ole sad, to mourn as they mourn the death, to be the cliché. You don’t always have to write the jarring, betcha-didn’t-see-that-coming reactions and emotions for your characters. Sometimes the common sadness, the anger, the fear of the unknown that humans tend to feel in response to a death is enough. There’s something to be said for tapping into the universally-acknowledged emotions people feel as they grieve. Again, how to interpret this advice and when to use it is solely your decision.

There is obviously a lot more we could say on grief, both in coping with loss and in writing it, but that ought to get you started.

Here are some links to further online reading:

And here are some book lists on this subject:

Thank you for your question! If you have anything to add or any further questions, please hit up our ask box!

-C

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Prompt Set #202

alloftheprompts:

This prompt set can serve for your inspiration directly or as an askbox meme :)

  1. That’s not how I expected this to go.
  2. I haven’t done anything wrong.
  3. I want these ghosts to go away.
  4. I wish someone would corrupt me.
  5. It’s just curiosity.
  6. This would kill him.
  7. I need you to meet me.
  8. That’s a lie!
  9. Everybody will hate me.
  10. When was the last time you’ve seen yourself?

writing prompts

mushroomfantasy:

  • What are you most grateful for?
  • Are you content?
  • What is your best memory of last year?
  • What was the last major accomplishment you’ve had?
  • What possession could you not live without?
  • Can people change?
  • What made you smile today?
  • What’s your favorite accessory?
  • What is making you mad?
  • What did you have for dinner today?
  • What did you get done?
  • Who are you in love with?
  • The best part of today was:
  • What is the hardest thing you’re dealing with?
  • Today, I wish I had more:
  • Tomorrow will be better because:
  • What made today unusual?
  • What are you looking for from life?
  • Tomorrow, I will:
  • My house is a home because:
  • What was the last thing you apologized for?
  • My favorite color is:
  • If you could do today over, what would you change?
  • Name a person you wish you didn’t have to deal with today.
  • I wish I had:
  • What book are you reading right now?
  • Last thing you wanted, but didn’t get.
  • What mood were you in today?
  • What was the last new thing you tried?
  • My biggest hope is:
  • What has challenged your morals?
  • List your pets.
  • Today I felt really secure in knowing:
  • Whose life did you make a difference in today?
  • Who made a difference in yours?
  • What is your super power?
  • What is annoying you?
  • What would have made today perfect?
  • What stresses you?
  • What do you wish you had left unsaid?

heldinhishands:

hey all, i was looking for some prompts and i found this and idk it’s been helping me today so i highly recommend it if you’re feeling uninspired. :))

Woman is:

—-kicking strongly in your mother’s womb, upon which she is told, “It must be a boy, if it’s so active!”

—-being tagged with a pink beaded bracelet thirty seconds after you are born, and wrapped in pink blankets five minutes thereafter.

—-being confined to the Doll Corner in nursery school when you are really fascinated by Tinker Toys.

—-wanting to wear overalls instead of “frocks.”

—-learning to detest the words “dainty” and “cute. “

—-being labeled a tomboy when all you wanted to do was climb that tree to look out and see a distance.

—-learning to sit with your legs crossed, even when your feet can’t touch the floor yet.

—-hating boys—because they’re allowed to do things you want to do but are forbidden to—and being told hating boys is a phase.

—-learning that something you do is “naughty,” but when your brother does the same thing, it’s “spunky.”

—-wondering why your father gets mad now and then, but your mother mostly sighs a lot.

—-seeing grownups chuckle when you say you want to be an engineer or doctor when you grow up—and learning to say you want to be a mommy or a nurse, instead.

—-wanting to shave your legs at twelve and being agonized because your mother won’t let you.

—-being agonized at fourteen because you finally have shaved your legs, and your flesh is on fire.

—-being told nothing whatsoever about menstruation, so that you think you are bleeding to death with your first period, or:

—-being told all about it in advance by kids at school who titter and make it clear the whole thing is dirty, or:

—-being prepared for it by your mother, who carefully reiterates that it isn’t dirty, all the while talking just above a whisper, and referring to it as the “curse,” “being sick,” or “falling off the roof.”

—-feeling proud of and disgusted by your own body, for the first, but not last, time.

—-dreading summertime because more of your body with its imperfections will be seen—and judged.

—-liking math or history a lot and getting hints that boys are turned off by smart girls.

—-getting hints that other girls are turned off by smart girls.

—-finally getting turned off by smart girls, unconsciously dropping back, lousing up your marks, and being liked by the other kids at last.

—-having an intense crush on another girl or on a woman teacher and learning that that’s unspeakable.

Excerpt, "Barbarous Rituals," in Sisterhood is Powerful. (via yellowboxturtle)

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writing 
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character names
write a definition and get a word

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optimum word count

general writing advice
how to write a kiss
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100 positive traits
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American vs. British grammar
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how to use the semicolon
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